Ebony Romero- At some point our lives, a majority of us will all have a story or two about a horrible boss we’ve had in the past. For those in the currently in the situation, it’s not a light subject to think about or cope with.
When you’re not the one who is dreading going into work every time – you think about it. You consider telling a fellow friend who is working for a horrible boss to “just quit”which is a lot easier said than done. Unfortunately, horrible bosses do not just exist in one job field on one level – they are everywhere. They are at every level. So before you start looking for an immediate way out, you should evaluate some strategies to help you manage. Ask yourself, “How can I take this awful experience and find some good out of it?”
A wise way to look at a situation with a horrible boss is to examine their shortcomings and flaws; turning those into an example of how you would never want to be in their shoes. Keep in mind: a good boss leads by example, respects their employees, but also treats those how they would want to be treated. Another important point to acknowledge with a horrible boss is that sometimes they may not even realize how bad their management skills are. They can be simply stuck in their ways.
According to a Danish study with participation from over 4,500 service workers: the reason why people are leaving their jobs is not because they are being overworked, but because they cannot handle their managers.
Business columnist, Dale Dauten, made a revealing observation explaining how incompetent bosses never seem to change:
“Years ago I was forced to realize that jerks are like vampires – you hold up a mirror, and they don’t see a thing. I used to assume that if you made fun of one premier jerk, then secondary and tertiary jerks would be forced to confront their Inner Jerks and change but that’s not how it works.”
“People don’t leave jobs, they leave managers,” says psychologist Matias Brødsgaard Grynderup, one of the researchers behind the study. “We may have a tendency to associate depression and stress with work pressure and workload; however, our study shows that the workload actually has no effect on workplace depression.”
Although some horrible boss situations can be managed, mediation may not always be your answer. Sometimes you must just be honest with yourself and ask, “Is my job is worth all the stress and unhappiness in my life? Am I learning in this position or being able to show off my skill set?” A healthy work environment with stable relationships amongst yourself, your boss and your co-workers are vital when it comes to producing quality work and maximizing your potential, your career, yourself, and your company.